The woman reveals why she is still with her husband 10 months after the discovery – claiming he even used photos of her in lingerie to make the other woman, who is almost the same age as their daughter, jealous.
A 36-year-old wife and mother has discovered the heartbreaking news that her husband of 19 years is having an “affair” with a woman he doesn’t know.
Taking to Reddit’s dating advice discussion forum, the anonymous woman claimed that the other woman is three years older than one of her two teenage daughters, explaining why she is unsure whether to leave him or try to find a way to recover from this betrayal.
Read on to find out what the general public thinks she should do, plus her reasons for sticking with it for 10 months after the invention.
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“My husband (36F) (37M) is having an affair with a girl (20F) who he has ‘never met’. Is this dishonest? Grounds for divorce?,” the girl titled her question.
“I found out 10 months ago that my husband is in a relationship with a woman he has ‘never met’ (or so he says),” she began her post.
In the post, it is clear that the OP confronted her husband about the online affair, however, the husband apparently did not end things with the other woman despite his wife asking him to.
“I’ve been ready for almost a year for him to choose me and break up with her. Every time he says he did, I find out he’s lying. I read their texts, they’re saying, ‘I like you.’ I know they’re intimate on FaceTime,” she continued, before things took a different turn.
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“I even discovered a picture of me in lingerie that he sent her to make her jealous,” she mentioned.
“We’ve been together for 19 years and have 2 kids together (the math says his girlfriend is 3 years older than our daughter),” she said.
The story got much more terrifying.
“I saw a wire transfer from her to him today for $2,000, which could just imply they’re planning flights to finally meet up? Time to sell the house and hire a lawyer or can we come back from this?” she concluded by asking Reddit.
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The highest response on the post was a simple question: “Why would you stick around for this?”
It has racked up over 1,400 upvotes at the time of writing, with the OP answering the question herself: “As a result, we’ve built an entire life together and he’s all I’ve ever known. Undo 19 years?”
“I say this with love and expertise: You are capable of doing better. He is dishonest with you emotionally, financially, and soon it seems, sexually,” the commenter responded, before the OP added, “Ooof the reality is hard to swallow, but that’s why I’m here, I’d like to hear it. Thank you.”
As for why the OP hasn’t dated in the last 10 months, she responded, “He comes from money, his family has ‘generational wealth’ (his phrase). I’m nervous he’ll outbid me in law and I’ll have to start over without a penny to my name.”
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While another social media user focused on the money being sent to another woman, sharing her concern that her husband was possibly being scammed.
“Did he send you a lot of money? Is it possible he is being scammed? It’s been a long time since we met. Either way, it doesn’t matter, this is more than enough bullshit to divorce someone over. Why are you questioning this?” they wrote.
OP then revealed that her husband stopped contributing funds to the family home.
“I have never seen any money go to her from our joint account. That’s not to say he doesn’t have another account, he does. He moved his direct deposit to his new account and stopped paying the mortgage,” OP responded before the social media consumer responded, “Please consult with an attorney ASAP.”
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Another Reddit member mentioned that her husband has done basically everything except “kill” someone.
“Your husband sounds horrible by every measure. About the only thing he hasn’t checked off is that, as far as I know, he hasn’t killed anyone. I can see why you’re feeling so disheartened. OP, you need to take the risk and file for divorce. A lawyer can advise you much better than Reddit, but they generally love to sue people with money for apparent causes, the courts don’t look kindly on infidelity, and you have children that you would likely get custody of,” wrote another Redditor.
In different updates to the OP, she shared that she caught her husband — who is her “high school boyfriend” — talking to different women on webcams after they were in their 20s. “When I make new discoveries, I pull back and he always pulls me back in. I’m not sure how to describe it. He has so much power over my feelings,” she added.
She also claimed he is known as a sociopath, “calls me to brag about her” when he’s drunk and fears she’ll “never find someone who likes me” if she leaves.
“He can’t seem to let me go for her. Like he wants us both, so he lies to me and says she’s sorry… then I find out about their WhatsApp conversations and it hurts again.”
What do you think?