Mýa is opening up about being celibate for the past seven years and how the experience has “changed” her mindset. During an appearance on By Angela Yee Way up radio program On Thursday, the 44-year-old singer explained that she began her celibacy journey to overcome the “pressure” placed on women to have romantic relationships.
“Mental clarity. It changed my mindset. It wasn’t a focus anymore. The rush to be in a relationship, the rush to get married, the rush to be in something because that’s what you’re taught to do — have children or procreate. There’s so much pressure on women to be able to do that,” Mýa said. “Why are we taught that we have to be taken or made into honest women?”
The “Best of Me” singer emphasized that she believes self-love should be the ultimate goal for anyone, but especially women.
“Love is beautiful, and I think the world always needs more of it, but I think you have to start with yourself,” she shared. “I have to start with myself every time, instead of waiting for other sources. It was just a reconditioning. It’s something that was needed because it’s a very spiritual thing. You have to be very selective if you want the best results. That self-accountability started with me shutting that part of my life down.”
As someone who has been in the public eye for most of her life, Mýa also opened up about how being seen as a sex symbol also shaped her desire to keep her love life private.
“You’re trying to process all of that when you’re young and then the aesthetic that you might have is totally opposite of who you really are, and that interferes with your life when you’re trying to date or maybe take pictures with other celebrities, so it can get really complicated,” the “My Love Is Like…Wo” singer added.
She continued: “But I think a lot of things that are sacred should remain private, to me until, of course, I’m solid and ready and the foundation of us is in place and even then it’s a risk. So I don’t really play with that part of my life publicly.”
Watch Mýa’s full appearance on Angela Yee’s Way up below.
Mýa isn’t the only celebrity who has shared her celibate journey recently. In May, Lenny Kravitz open to The Guardian about your decision to be celibate while waiting for a new love in your life.
Lenny explained that his tumultuous relationship with romance served as one of the main reasons for his decision to be celibate.
O 60 year old rock star counted The Guardian that he struggled with the “curse” of infidelity that his father, Sy Kravitz, placed on him. When he discovered that his father was cheating on his mother, actress Roxie Roker, Sy flippantly told Lenny that he would eventually do the same thing.
“He became certain. After the marriage, I became more like him. I was becoming a player,” Lenny said of his love life after the divorce. Lisa Bonet in 1993. “I didn’t like it. I didn’t want to be that guy. So I had to face it and it took years.”
Lenny added that he took “accountability” for his behavior and learned not to let his desires “take over.”
The course of action resulted in Lenny not being in a serious relationship for nine years. Blue electric light singer has been talking about embracing celibacy for several years; he first mention of sexual abstinence until marriage in 2008, saying he had not had sex in the previous three years.
“(It’s) just a promise I made until I got married. Where I am in life, women have to come with something more, not just the body, but the mind and spirit,” Lenny counted Maximum In 2008. “Usually it drives them crazy, but that’s how it’s going to be. I’m looking at the big picture.”
But in 2011, he said Details that his comments were “exaggerated.”
Now, the singer says he’s still practicing celibacy while he waits for the right partner. “It’s a spiritual thing,” he shared, adding that while he would “love” to be in a relationship right now, he thinks he might struggle. “I’ve become very set in my ways, in the way I live.”
Earlier that month, Lenny sat down with CBS Mornings co-host Gayle King It is opened up about how ready he is for love now more than ever in my 60s.
“Right now, I’m just open,” he said of his love life, adding that he’s always searching — which might be the problem. “When you want something, you’re looking for it, right? But I think when you’re not looking, that’s when you find it.”
He added: “I can say I have never felt the way I feel now.”
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