The woman said the comments made her “feel bad about being small,” while her sister-in-law argued that she was opening herself up to “judgment” because of her clothes and wanted to “move forward.”
A woman took to the internet to ask if she was wrong to attack her sister-in-law after her repeated comments about her top and clothes.
The story, posted on Reddit unnamed discussion forum “Am I the A-Gap”, comes from a short 27 year old whose brother’s wife apparently weaponized a virus 30 rock play with her, over and over, regardless of her protests.
While OP (aka “authentic poster”) was told to “develop the shit” by her SIL, the web took it back.
Keep reading to see the full story and how Redditors reacted.
The authentic AITA post on Reddit
AITA for calling out my SIL in front of everyone when she wouldn’t stop commenting about me trying to be an “attractive child”
Starting off by telling viewers that she is “a very short lady,” coming in at 4’9″ and under 100 pounds, OP mentioned that she didn’t want it to sound like she was complaining about being small. Instead, she explained that she had issues with “a lot of people out there (especially other women) who don’t take us seriously, are critical, make sarcastic comments, think our attraction to us is harmful, etc.”
“Lots of comments that suggest we’re not real girls and many others,” she added.
OP said she normally lets some comments roll back to her, but “there’s a new one that’s gained momentum that I think comes from a TV show where a woman is doing a childish act and she says ‘I’m a very attractive child’ with a cute voice.” The show she’s referring to is likely 30 Rock, where guest star Cristin Milioti took on an “attractive kid” persona. The phrase was recently repopularized because of Taylor Swift’s song “Anti-Hero.”
“My SIL Cassie noticed this and has been using it ‘against me,’” OP stated. “I can’t wear a cute outfit without her coming up to me and scolding me for ‘buying into the whole cute kid factor’ when I’m JUST WEARING AN OUTFIT. I am simply making an attempt to be ME. God forbid I put on a shorter skirt or bows or something I think is cute.”
“It’s like I’m not allowed to do cute or attractive things because I’m small, so I’m routinely seen as trying to be an ‘attractive child’ when I’m not,” she continued. “I have asked Cassie to cease or desist and she claims that I am the one who opens myself up to judgment and that I should dress my age.”
Things “came to a head” between the pair after the two went swimming in another family member’s pool, where, once again, Cassie began the “excited child” taunt after seeing her one-piece halter-top swimsuit. .
“I raised my voice and said, “That’s an extremely bizarre thing to keep saying. What’s your deal with me? Why do you keep mentioning that I’m small? said OP, who claimed SIL from her then “started blushing and she yelled again that I’m the one choosing to walk around looking like the ‘pretty child.’”
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“She yelled again that I should ‘dress like an adult’ and stop trying to cause a scene in front of everyone,” OP continued, adding that her SIL then “attacked me for asking her out” later that day.
“I instructed her to stop trying to make me feel bad about being small, about not choosing this body. She rolled her eyes and told me to fuck up, and that ‘trying to start shit’ with her is even more proof,” said the woman, who said the habit is starting to make her not want to be around much more. from his family after already receiving “this shit from women at work, at the gym, especially anywhere”.
“AITA for calling her? And even because… I don’t know, present in my own body?” she concluded.
In an update to her post, she also responded to some commenters by explaining that her brother “wouldn’t care” about the drama and would “always be on her side.” She added that her other family members are “very distant”… and said Cassie “isn’t fat, she’s just a normal person.”
How Reddit reacted
Unsurprisingly, almost everyone on Reddit took OP’s side, with over 1,200 comments – most of which were in full support of her. The post also earned an official Not the A-Gap label from voters.
“NTA. Your SIL seems obsessive about calling you, checking notes…carrying clothes. These are not ‘attractive’ clothes. It’s just small, because, well, you’re small,” read the popular response. “Invite your brother to talk to her about it. Let her know that this must stop NOW. It’s dimensional, you asked her to stop and she didn’t. It’s time to establish agency boundaries and implement them.”
“This woman is embarrassing you,” wrote another supporter. “This lady is a bully who thought she could mock you with impunity and consider it a pleasant provocation. Clearly she wasn’t counting on you to identify her.
Another person asked for more context about OP’s clothes, asking whether she wears clothes made for adults or clothes made for children. “Most clothing made for adults, but often some basic items like simple t-shirts, are cheaper and fit better in the women’s section,” OP replied.
As for how she should handle the situation going forward, Reddit had some ideas.
“I would ask her why she thinks babies are attractive,” one person asked, while another person recommended, “Next time this happens, tell her out loud that her finding you and babies attractive makes you very happy. uncomfortable and please stop saying that. she finds babies attractive.
What do you think?