A woman is scared that her boyfriend is “a Nazi hiding behind Christ” as she has witnessed a dramatic change in behavior, including racist comments, conspiracy theories, “delusional beliefs,” and him telling her she is on “the side.” of Satan” when she pushes again.
An anonymous woman may be very, very worried about her relationship, taking to Reddit’s relationship advice forum to detail a dramatic change she claims has happened with her boyfriend over the past year.
The OP (“Original Poster”) really isn’t sure what to do, and doesn’t even know how to deal with his problems, as she says that what she’s tried so far is certainly not working.
The overwhelming consensus from Redditors is one of deep concern bordering on concern for the woman, with recommendations that she leave immediately.
Read on to find out what she’s facing and what she’s doing about it now.
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‘Spiraling on Redpill’
The lady begins her story by saying that (23F) has been together with her boyfriend (28M) for 3 years. She noted that things have been going well for the first two years of their relationship: “But since last year he’s really getting into hardcore red Christianity and that’s enabling his racist and bigoted beliefs.”
While she can’t confirm anything for sure, OP writes, “I assume he’s being redpilled in the most basic sense,” adding in the comments that he seems to get most of his news from TikTok now. She went on to explain: “His life turned into a spiral of crazy conspiracy theories and delusional beliefs about demons and the main bodies. I am very involved with their psychological well-being.”
“Every time I call him that, he goes after me for being on the ‘devil’s side,’” OP lamented, adding, “This is not the person I met or fell in love with. He’s a Nazi hiding behind Christ.”
“It sickens me as a Latina woman to hear his racist and bigoted beliefs about immigrants when my family came from Cuba,” she continued, asking Redditors, “How do I deal with him when he is so reactive?”
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‘You are not safe with this man’
“Please break up before he gets violent with you,” one Redditor begged directly in a comment upvoted 2,500 times. OP chimed in with her own issues, asking, “Does it really feel like it could come to that?”
“Of course. He will escalate. You are not suitable. There is nothing you can do to change the one you fell in love with,” the commenter responded. “If you continue, he will reduce you to a shadow of yourself. Go though now. Pack your bags while he’s at work (or college or away) and leave.
Another person echoed the sentiment, writing: “Very, only a few women who have been crushed and/or killed by their partners or husbands thought it could come to this.”
“Oh, honey. 🤦🏻♀️You are an IMMIGRANT. How long do you REALLY think it’s here before he activates YOU???” asked one commenter vehemently. “It better have BEEN the FIRST bigoted sentences that came out of your mouth!!!”
You don’t navigate by calling it. You navigate your exit plan
It was a message echoed across the comments, with one Redditor telling the OP, “as soon as they start the dehumanization and say you’re on ‘Satan’s side,’ that’s how they rationalize that violence against you is not only acceptable because it better be.”
There was also a consensus that she didn’t even bother talking to him in person, with one of them asking the OP to “Ghost if she can.” Another agreed: “Of course. Run. Even when he wouldn’t become violent, nothing fash. Leave as quickly as possible.
“Pity the person you really liked, they are worthless and could be a bigoted, racist, physique-flaunting idiot,” another commenter agreed. “Now fantasize this idiot and go discover a real man.” Another was much more direct, writing: “You don’t sail. You don’t mediate. You pack your bags and say ‘no, there’s no chance, man’.”
Others were intrigued if perhaps there was a true medical psychological health situation emerging here, with one commenter suggesting that her boyfriend is “at an age where schizophrenia is more likely to develop.” Recognizing how difficult it might be to convince him to look into this, they inspired OP to “counselon his family and friends, or get a 72-hour psychological consultation if he acts in a way that seems harmful to himself or others.”
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“He appears to be suffering from an untreated psychological illness. Some people become hyperspiritual as a symptom,” agreed another Redditor, who said he has a background in medical psychology. “Some people with bipolar disorder may appear beautiful for months and even years, after which they immediately experience a period of mania and spiritual obsessions. It can also increase paranoia and suspicion that can exacerbate racism.”
At the same time, they asked OP to sever her personal connections and not fully pursue remediation with he. One Redditor commented: “Do NOT treat him either. You will never deal with your abuser, it just teaches them how to be superior manipulators.
Instead, they encouraged her to let her family handle the situation, with one commenter advising OP to “let them know they want to get his mental health tested, and then you definitely walk away and block it all out.” ”
“You don’t navigate by calling it. You navigate your exit plan,” asked another commenter in a very thorough comment. “Make sure it’s safe. Make sure you have funds and important documents secured where he cannot contact them. Be ready for him to try to chase you. Have security measures in place. If you live together, ask friends to stay with you while you take your belongings and go out when he’s not home. He is a frightening individual and his safety must take precedence.”
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‘Actually, it really opened my eyes’
After being hit with a torrent of concern from Redditors, OP returned to her original post with an update on how much the feedback section “really opened my eyes.”
She wrote: “I can say that three months ago he was completely different and wasn’t saying anything like he is now, it was sudden.” And given the overwhelming ideas she was having to run away immediately, it looks like OP is following the advice.
“I left a message on his work cell phone saying he needed to get his things and leave. I recommend mental health treatment as well,” she wrote. “I will be with a good friend for several days. I didn’t think it was that critical. Like Chris Watts’ review.
“I am undecided when a peculiar conspiracy was a complete illusion, as was felt during the night,” she wrote.
What do you suppose?
