A joint family trip to which everyone contributed financially ended abruptly for a couple who “got up and left the house” after being told their dog was making too much noise while a two-year-old was sleeping.
After backing out of a joint family trip caused by her dog and another family’s 2-year-old son, a woman is taking to the Internet to ask if she was on the right path.
Hopping onto Reddit’s famous AITA (“Am I the A-hole”) forum, OP (aka “the original poster”) shared that a whole group of adults, kids, and dogs came together for the holiday, sharing a large Airbnb throughout its entire length. And things were mostly high quality… until they weren’t.
Then she left.
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To start her story, OP shared the details of this specific trip. “So my husband M (35) and I F (30) went on a family trip and stayed in an airbnb (Friday) with about nine different adults, 3 kids, 2 dogs and 1 two year old. Children and a dog will not be ours.”
She went on to explain that “our Malshi (Maltese Shih Tzu)” feels protective and barks when people come through the front door or hears loud noises. “He just needs to be petted or sniff you or just stop when you sit or just for a few seconds,” OP explained, adding, “(This is important to the story)”
Noting later that the place where they were staying was on the fourth floor, OP explained the problem: “The two-year-old and her parents decide to sleep on the first floor where almost all the people are, but when the two-year-old is trying sleep, everyone must be quiet, they usually get mad at my dog for barking.
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Then came the offensive incident, about three days into the holiday. According to the OP, the 2-year-old’s mother and father returned to the shared Airbnb. Instantly, the 2-year-old was prepared to take a nap so that “people would start telling everyone to shut up and since they’re sleeping on the first floor, everyone should be quiet.”
“As people keep coming in and kids keep climbing the steps, our dogs bark here and there,” OP continued. “The father comes out and asks my husband to take our dog somewhere else because the child is trying to sleep. The way he said it was quite impolite and demanding. Then we got up and went home.”
She then defined their position on the issue: “Initially we were all traveling and having fun. We all pay to be there and so on. I really think it was reckless of them to ask everyone to be quiet after they had also taken the child to the third or fourth floor where there was no one and there were still empty rooms available.
“If we were at their house, I would understand,” OP wrote. “But not in this case. Plus, I know a lot of babies and children who don’t want to be so still and peaceful after sleeping. In fact, it’s so annoying.” However, she wasn’t sure enough to go to Reddit and ask, “So AITA is here?”
There was a strong consensus of ESH (“Everybody Sucks Here”) from Redditors, with arguments presented against OP and her family, as well as the 2-year-old’s family. The highest, with over 1,600 upvotes, noted: “They were rude about the situation where there were quieter rooms (supposedly) where the baby could have napped, but your dog seems distracting.”
“No one wants to hear a dog bark every time someone walks by the door, nor should they want to stop and placate the dog every time they do,” they continued. “Mom and dad should have more realistic expectations about traveling with a large group of people while their child has a sleep schedule, but it’s a good idea to prepare your dog better.”
Another noted that, whatever the reason, the dog’s barking is “a huge disturbance,” while also arguing, “The same goes for a baby who can’t sleep in a naturally noisy area sleeping in such an area.” .
Who thought this was a good suggestion?
OP couldn’t disagree with the sentiment. “It’s true, my dog is protective and doesn’t bark all the time, but I understand that it’s annoying for most people too when he barks. He is a very playful and loving canine. Small, like 10 pounds.”
She went on to say that the issue was more about the way the 2-year-old’s father expressed his concerns to her husband “as if it was their home and secondly, it really sucks when everyone is laughing and people are talking to be silenced every minute. She later noted, “If he had said it in a nicer, more polite way, I don’t think we would have left.”
Alongside the overall ESH of the story, a Redditor asked, “Who thought this was a good suggestion?” They argued that the entire setup “was asking for drama.” They then called out OP “for seeming shocked when people want you to take care of their barking dog,” before calling out mom and dad for “for taking trips with those carrying a barking dog and anticipating things to happen.” still.”
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“That was a very foolish thing to do for everyone,” the commenter continued, before concluding with harsh words for OP’s final comment about it being annoying that the child might need quiet to sleep. “People should not have dogs barking themselves to sleep, especially young children,” they wrote.
However, many sided with the OP with a little nudge: “If your child wants everyone to be quiet to sleep, can you two choose a room away from everyone else or find a place to be close by so you can ensure a peaceful environment. You don’t shut everyone up during completely accessible times and you get irritated when there is noise during accessible times
“It could have happened whether or not my dog was there, but it made things worse, I think,” OP added. She emphasized in another comment that the couple weren’t just shushing their dogs, but “they were people laughing or talking” too.
Authorized Canine Owner Vs. authorized guardian. There are no winners here
“I’m not mad at them telling my dog to shut up, I was annoyed and upset because they expect everyone (not just the dog – when they walked in) to be quiet and shut up when everyone is having fun. and laughing and having fun on a trip,” she argued.
The discussion didn’t completely free her from bringing an alarm-barking canine on a joint trip. “You might agree with dog barking to alarm, but not everyone seems to agree with it. You must have thought about this when traveling with other people.”
But others noted that OP had mentioned there was another dog on this trip, but it doesn’t seem to have been that big of a problem. The bottom line for many Redditors was that OP is TA for bringing her dog. “No one loves your noisy dog but you. Everyone thinks it’s a headache.” But the mother and father were also AT if they “expect everyone to be quiet for the sake of their son.”
One Redditor summed up the entire thread succinctly: “Ooh, a traditional, authorized canine owner versus an authorized guardian. There are no winners here, ESH for sure.”